Pray for Families (Seen and Valued)

Greetings Prayer Warriors,

The last couple days have been spent celebrating my mom's birthday. It brings to light the importance of celebrating an individual, allowing them to be seen, cherished, and valued, as they are by the Lord. To him, each of us are highly significant, each created for a unique purpose. As such, he chooses to dwell within us and never ever abandons us. 

I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, God’s dwelling is with the human race. He will dwell with them and they will be his people and God himself will always be with them [as their God].

Make your family members feel cherished and loved.  Love them as Christ loves them.  And remember, nothing says love like keeping them in prayer!   Have a blessed weekend!

Peace, Joy, and Love, 

Janet

Make someone feel valued.  Pass it on!

Pray for Marriages (The Perception of Perfect)

 Greetings Prayer Warriors,

A friend recently commented, “From reading your blog posts, I would think you have the perfect marriage, but I know that not to be true.” I was taken aback and a bit stunned by that perception. Who continues to write a blog post requesting prayers for marriage and family for almost 15 years if they have a perfect marriage and family?? When everything is perfect, one doesn’t even think they need God! 

Marriages span a continuum. Some look perfect, but never are. Others look a bit messy, yet the relationship can be quite solid.  Most marriages have their good weeks and bad weeks, good years and bad years. All of them need prayers. Prayer is not only a petition for the fortification of marriages, but a call that each draws closer to God. For no marriage will improve unless at least one of the individuals surrenders to God’s will. Each individual has vices that aren’t helping the relationship. We must grasp the Lord’s hand to be led!

For when you were slaves of sin, you were free from righteousness. But what profit did you get then from the things of which you are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death. Romans 6:20-21

Does the above conjure up anything for you? Perhaps words slung in anger? Aggression or passive aggression? Lingering resentment? Silent treatment? One may think they are getting back at their spouse, but in reality, they have injured two relationships, the first being with God!

Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa!

In their distress they cried to the LORD, who saved them in their peril, sent forth his word to heal them, and snatched them from the grave. Let them thank the LORD for his mercy. Psalm 107:19-21

The Word is to be a healing balm or sometimes as an unexpected sword to awaken the senses. This blog and our prayers are for the imperfect and the sinners. Therefore, all are welcome to receive the Word and to the fruit of our collective prayers. Never stop your commitment to praying whether that be contemplative, spoken, or in deed! Pray, pray, pray! May God awaken you to his mercy and bless your marriage or the one you pray for, abundantly!

Peace, Joy, and Love,

Janet

You know a married person in need of this. Don’t hesitate, be a friend and pass it on! 

Pray for Families (Mindful of the Lord)

 Greetings Prayer Warriors,

Families are busier than ever. Their schedules are packed whether they have 2 children or 12 children.  Whether carpooling or homeschooling, attending sports practice or games, band practice or concerts, working, cooking, cleaning, homework, shopping, or exercising, your obligations will take you over if you don’t take charge of them. Even empty nesters can be busier than ever. But never forget to take the Lord with you, regardless of what you are doing. You always have time to pray; to have conversations with God. 

When you drive, if you have time to yell at other drivers, you have time to converse with God. (Preferable to yelling). On the phone when driving? Call God instead. Do you have the television or radio on when working or doing chores? Use it as prayer time instead. Do you have conference calls and other distractions that keep you from prayer?  Play soft religious music or Gregorian Chant in the background to soothe your soul. Do you practice mindfulness? Be mindful of the Lord instead. 

“Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, [then] I will enter his house and dine with him, and he with me." Revelation 3:20

Keep Jesus company. Remember that he is not only part of your family, he created it. He knows your worries and your frustrations, so talk to him about them. Ask for his help, his blessings, his assurances, his peace, and his love in your family. Thank him for your blessings. Every minute of the day he waits to hear your voice calling out to him.

When you call me, and come and pray to me, I will listen to you. When you look for me, you will find me. Yes, when you seek me with all your heart, I will let you find me—oracle of the LORD  Jeremiah 29:12-14

Prayer really is the answer.

Peace, Joy, and Love,

Janet

Encourage another to open the door of their heart. Pass it on! 

Pray for Marriages (The Abundant Life)

 Greetings Prayer Warriors,

“I’m busy.” Isn’t that a common refrain? “I would read (more) scripture, but I’m busy”. “I’d spend more time praying, but I’m busy.” “I’d go to church more, but I have other obligations.” “I have to work long hours, I need to feed my family.”

“It is written, ‘One does not live by bread alone.” Luke 4:4

While the above sentiments all have some truth, the Lord calls us to always rely on him in ALL things, not just when we think things are out of our own control. In marriage, we are to give our struggles to him. Within our family, we are to trust in his loving care and accept that he loves our family members MORE than we do. It doesn’t mean he gives everyone an easy path, rather, he knows what hardships and obstacles will strengthen your trust in him.

He therefore let you be afflicted with hunger, and then fed you with manna,  a food unknown to you and your ancestors, so you might know that it is not by bread alone that people live, but by all that comes forth from the mouth of the LORD.  Deuteronomy 8:3

In other words, feasting on his Word is more important than working for bread.  Working to provide for the basics is essential.  Working to provide for all the luxuries in life at the expense of a relationship with the Lord, is not essential and can be harmful to the soul. 

Spend some time doing some self-evaluation and evaluation as a couple.  Is your focus on the Lord?  What gets in the way of that?  

Prayer is always the best beginning. Not many couples are equally yoked in this regard.  Make a commitment to pray for a deeper reliance on the Lord, even if you are left to pray alone.  Pray for the spouse that is in a different spiritual place than you.  While the Lord wants to give you an abundant life, it doesn’t necessarily mean physical abundance.  If he does bless you with wealth, you are called to glorify him with it.  If your belongings are meager, but spiritual blessings great, you have all the more reason to glorify him!

 I came so that they might have life and have it more abundantly. John 10:10

Strive for the abundant life! Ask the Lord what that means for you and your spouse. Pray, pray, pray! 

Peace, Joy, and Love,

Janet

Pray for abundance and pass it on! 

Pray for Marriages (Love Replenished)

Greetings Prayer Warriors,

You all know that love is a journey. It’s easy to begin marriage by proclaiming to the Lord, 

“Behold, I come to do your will.” Hebrews 10:9

In your mind, you are thinking, “Yes Lord, I can love this person for the rest of my life! Thy will be done!” Loving is so easy in the beginning, especially before financial challenges, kids, carpools, competing schedules, etc.

Like any journey, trips are fun until you’ve been in the car too long together and the radiator isn’t the only thing overheating. Perhaps that’s why rest stops were created. Stopping, replenishing, and taking in some fresh air brings about a fresh perspective. So it is with marriage. While much of the journey is extremely enjoyable, without some rest stops, one can’t remain their best self. Nor, can one bring about the best side of the other.  

We must consider how to rouse one another to love and good works. Hebrews 10:24

When we are at our best, we are loving and our actions mirror that. Small, kind gestures are often enough to disarm a spouse’s less than pleasant disposition, helping them to reverse course. Yet, when it doesn’t, discouragement can set in, weariness takes over, and leaving one’s effort to love, nil. With your newlywed exuberance a distant memory, your hope and confidence in “forever and ever” wanes.

Do not throw away your confidence; it will have great recompense. You need endurance to do the will of God and receive what he has promised. 

Hebrews 10:35-36

And what will help boost your endurance? Prayer of course! Weekly at a minimum!

We even boast of our afflictions, knowing that affliction produces endurance, and endurance, proven character, and proven character, hope, and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out into our hearts through the holy Spirit that has been given to us. Romans 5:3-5

Catch that? We get replenished by God’s love!

Heavenly Father, you have gifted each of us with a unique journey that is just ours. May this journey begin and end with praise on our lips, for you know exactly what we need to grow in love, patience, hope, and endurance. Give us an outpouring of these gifts and virtues and an extra dollop of your love. Lord you ordained marriage as a special gift, one that helps us understand the depth of sacrificial love. Heal and reignite the marital unions of these dear prayer warriors and all the couples they hold dear, for Jesus we trust in you!

Peace, Joy, and Love,

Janet

Be love, and may your good work be in passing it on!

Pray for Families (Becoming a Merciful Me)

 Greetings Prayer Warriors,

Do you ever ask yourself, what should mercy look like within the family? Not our definition, but God’s? 

Is it overlooking everything, or being patient with another’s bad behavior knowing that we aren’t exactly perfect?  

Be merciful, just as [also] your Father is merciful. “Stop judging and you will not be judged. Stop condemning and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven. Luke 6:36-37

Or is it loving someone through their missteps, but still encouraging change?

Then Jesus straightened up and said to her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” She replied, “No one, sir.” Then Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you. Go, [and] from now on do not sin any more.” John 8:11-23

The last line of this scripture is the most telling: “from now on do not sin any more.” With complete love and compassion, the Lord tells Mary Magdalene to “sin no more”. This is a call to holiness!

God created each of us for a specific purpose and reason, in accordance with his perfect plan. He longs to see our cooperation in the fulfillment of that plan, which will lead us to holiness.

We are not our feelings, bad choices, or wrong decisions. That does NOT define us nor the members of our family. The Lord made that very clear. He sees each of us as he made us. He challenges us to become who he created us to be.  

Mercy is loving someone along their journey, not defining them by an action or deed nor allowing them to define themselves in that manner. It is calling them to be more, not affirming them in an identity not ordained by God. A person will never find true peace and joy, if they don’t first recognize the love God has for them. One experiences Divine Love through others. We are called to be the shining lamp of his love.  Peace and joy flow from finding one’s identity in God. Mercy is guiding a family member towards that fulfillment.

Mercy is not condemning someone, but praying for them. It’s asking the Lord for the grace to see them through God’s eyes, not ours.  

You formed my inmost being; you knit me in my mother’s womb. I praise you, because I am wonderfully made.  Psalm 139:13-14

Indeed you are. God doesn’t make mistakes. Be merciful and make that known!

Peace, Joy, and Love,

Janet

Increase your love and mercy wattage! Pass it on! 

Pray for Marriages (A Major Remodel)

 Greetings Prayer Warriors,

My heart aches when I hear of marriages fighting for survival. Those are times of intense loneliness, anger, despair, doubt, bewilderment, wavering faith, and feelings of abandonment. One’s entire being cries out:

My heart is withered, dried up like grass, too wasted to eat my food. 

Psalm 102:5

My God, my God, why have you abandoned me? Why so far from my call for help, from my cries of anguish? My God, I call by day, but you do not answer, by night, but I have no relief. Psalm 22:2-3

My eyes! My eyes! They stream with tears! How far from me is anyone to comfort, anyone to restore my life. Lamentations 1:16

LORD, may you not withhold your compassion from me;  May your mercy and your faithfulness continually protect me. Psalm 40:12

How difficult are the crosses in life! While they seek to perfect us in the virtues and give birth to the fruit of the Spirit, that doesn’t mean we are ready for them! My prayers are with anyone who is struggling.  

If anyone wishes to come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. Luke 9:23

Yet, while the Lord will not give you a life without crosses, he does promise to never let you walk alone. 

It is the LORD who goes before you; he will be with you and will never fail you or forsake you. So do not fear or be dismayed. Deuteronomy 31:8  

Trust in the LORD with all your heart, on your own intelligence do not rely.  Proverbs 3:5

Lord, we call upon your love, compassion, and mercy, and ask for a deluge of graces upon marriages. While the Evil One delights in destruction, you are our firm foundation.  Repair the cracks that threaten to crumble and destroy each marriage, heal their festering wounds, and fortify their union. Hear their cries for assistance and increase their faith in you. Adorn them with your virtues, thus remodeling the structure, fortifying them in love, and enabling them to withstand all future assaults. Jesus, we trust in you!

Peace, Joy, and Love,

Janet

Prayer is kryptonite against Satan’s weapons of marriage destruction. Pass it on! 

Pray for Marriages (Loving Through the Cross)

Greetings Prayer Warriors,

As humans, we like to fix things, restore order, and straighten the crooked. It can bring about peace and calm. However, things go awry when we try to fix, restore, and straighten people. We are to love people and fix things, not love things and fix people.

Perhaps you feel alone because you have a spouse that suffers from depression, Bipolar Disorder, PTSD, other mental health challenges, or even Autism Spectrum Disorder. Conversely, maybe you have a spouse with physical limitations or disabilities. Whatever your challenge, you are not alone. All marriages experience highs and lows in their relationship, they just differ in type. But all come to a realization that they are not in control, and are quickly humbled. While one wants to grab the helm, the Lord asks rather that we trust in him and the path he has ordained for us. The only action he calls us to, is to remain steadfast in love.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart, on your own intelligence do not rely. Proverbs 3:5

Loving through difficulty is hard. One must draw close to the Lord and rely on Him to love through you while praying for the strength to imitate Christ.

Not by might, and not by power, but by my spirit, says the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6

Let us pray for husbands and wives, especially those most challenged. While you might think your cross is heavy, your spouse might think that you are their heavy cross!

Lord, we think we are strong, but you know we are weak! We think we have all the answers and lose sight that YOU are the answer. We think we have endurance, and then whimper at the first hardship. We believe we have the fortitude to persevere, yet allow our hope to weaken. Lord, we ask for healing graces for ALL marriages and a shower of graces to strengthen each unique marriage. May we not focus on our difficulties, but rather on perfecting our love in imitation of you. Thank you Jesus, for the customized crosses you’ve designed for each one of us, that our marital walk may lead to an eternity spent with you. Amen.

Peace, Joy, and Love, 

Janet

 

Be steadfast in love and pass it on! 

Pray for Families (Holy Week Perseverance)

Greetings Prayer Warriors,

 

Holy Week is almost upon us, a time to meditate on the Passion of the Lord. Even if you haven’t succeeded in all of your Lenten practices, be sure to lean in here. There is such a large contrast between Palm Sunday, where Christ was loved and praised, to his crucifixion just 5 days later where he was mocked and killed for speaking Truth.  

 “Father, if you are willing, take this cup away from me; still, not my will but yours be done.”

Perhaps you have experienced the swing of being both loved and hated in your family. Place yourself with Jesus and meditate on the heavy emotion of feeling unloved by those you care about most. Then remember that Jesus never stopped loving those who ignored or hated him.  

“I do believe, help my unbelief!” Mark 9:24

Can you remember a time when you experienced a verbal or physical lashing? Contemplate that pain and experience Jesus’s cries during his scourging, remembering that he was making atonement for your sin.

‘O God, be merciful to me a sinner.’ Luke 18:13

If you’ve ever been jeered at and humiliated, you will never forget it. Yet Christ allowed himself to have a crown of thorns pounded into his head, old cloth as a robe, and a stick as a scepter as he was mocked as a self-proclaimed king. Consider the times in your life when you rejected him as king. Draw close to console him, promising to make him the forever King of your life.

‘O God, be merciful to me a sinner.’ Luke 18:13

Perhaps there was a time when you were saddled with family burdens, or had to carry the burden for your family. As you contemplate your exhaustion, meditate on the weight of Jesus’ cross and how crushing the sin of the world must have been. Consider that he would do it all over again for you, not because of your love, but because of his.

“I do believe, help my unbelief!”  Mark 9:24

During the Crucifixion, Jesus “appears” to be powerless as he is nailed to the cross. Think of a time you felt powerless, helpless, and all alone, but when you turned to Jesus, he intervened to assist you. 

LORD, your mercy endures forever.  Psalm 138:8

As we enter the final stretches of Lent, let us continue to pray for our families and each other, repeating, “Not my will but yours be done.”

Dear Lord, please bless and strengthen the prayer warriors and their families, as they push through this last week of Lent.  Give them the grace of perseverance needed to be a perfect reflection of your love!

Peace, Joy, and Love,
Janet

Share His love. Pass it on!

Pray for Marriages (Sculpted to Perfection)

 Greetings Prayer Warriors, 

Have you ever pondered the deep faith of the persecuted? There are so many beautiful stories in the bible where those who endured hardships of every kind, never lost hope, never wavered in faith, and always trusted in the kindness, mercy, and justice of the Lord. 

When you have challenges in life, especially those that impact your marriage, take a lesson from a saint or two. Don’t trust God less, but rather more. Don’t run from the trial, but lean into it. Don’t try to solve it, but release it to the Lord.  

My child, stand by your agreement and attend to it, grow old while doing your work. Do not marvel at the works of a sinner, but trust in the LORD and wait for his light; For it is easy in the eyes of the LORD suddenly, in an instant, to make the poor rich. God’s blessing is the lot of the righteous, and in due time their hope bears fruit. Sirach 11:20-22

Lord, we are poor in spirit, make us rich in our faith. May we trust in your guidance as you lead us out of darkness. May we not complain about our trials, but rejoice that they are a result of your great love for us. May we not fear the hands of the Sculptor as He molds us in His image, but welcome the chipping away of all that mars and scars us. Jesus, help us trust in you more!

Pray for one another, that we all become beautiful reflections of Christ’s light, especially to our spouses.

Peace, Joy, and Love,

Janet

Shine a little brighter and pass it on!

Pray for Families (Desolation and Consolation)

Greetings Prayer Warriors,

Most people plan out their lives.  They want to be married by a certain age, have X number of kids, have great careers, travel, and live their lives to the fullest. But rarely is that path a straight line and often there are roadblocks and detours. Sometimes, OUR plans are crushed. 

While I have been dealing with family medical issues, so have many of my friends. Some are in the sandwich generation, taking care of kids and parents, others just have unique family dramas and crises. What is so easy to lose sight of, is that the Lord has a plan for all of this. None of this is a surprise to Him.  None of it is without a higher purpose.

For I know well the plans I have in mind for you—oracle of the LORD—plans for your welfare and not for woe, so as to give you a future of hope. 

Jeremiah 29:11

While that doesn’t feel consoling in the moment, how often have you looked back on trying events and seen the blessing? 

Consider it all joy, my brothers, when you encounter various trials, for you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. And let perseverance be perfect, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. James 1:2-4

When in desolation, be consoled by the prayers we pray for you. May they lift you up! When in a period of consolation, rejoice and pray fervently for those in desolation. We are one in Christ, so let’s pray fervently for the benefit of the whole. May all be blessed!

 

Peace, Joy, and Love,

Janet

Pray for those experiencing difficult times and pass it on!  

Pray for Marriages (Surviving Basic Training)

Greetings Prayer Warriors,

Many marriages suffer because they became unyoked spiritually, or weren’t necessarily yoked to begin with. Rather than journeying astride, their relationship became a push and pull, creating a very unsteady gait. Re-syncing  can be very difficult, especially when one thinks perfection is changing the rhythm of the other. 

For Jesus himself testified that a prophet has no honor in his native place. John 4:44

It’s not our job to change or even convert our spouse. It’s the Lord’s. That’s a difficult pill to swallow if you are a control freak, and even if you aren’t! This where humility and surrender are required.  “O Jesus, I surrender myself to you. Take care of everything”.   

We are called to be a reflection of Christ in his love, his mercy, and his peace.  In his tenderness, meekness, and compassion. And most of all, we are called to pray for our spouse, calling down blessings and graces upon them. 

Our earthly life  is our basic training in the building of virtue. We are broken down so the Lord can build us up stronger. We are the little lambs he carries upon his shoulders when we are too weak to carry on. We can take rest in the fact that we never walk alone. 

Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart; and you will find rest for yourselves.  For my yoke is easy, and my burden light.” Matthew 11:29-30

Lord, we ask you to lift up the tired, the weak, the frustrated, and the discouraged. May your grace restore them, fortify them, and nourish them to forge ahead on their journey, especially in their marital relationship. Sustain them on their personal way of the cross, bringing them a “Simon of Cyrene” to help them carry on when they burden is too much. If it be thy will, send us to be a “Simon” for another, in true brotherhood and sisterhood. Help us to be a reflection of you, both inside and outside of our marriages.  Jesus,we trust in you, now and forevermore!

“Behold, God’s dwelling is with the human race. He will dwell with them and they will be his people and God himself will always be with them [as their God]. Revelation 21:3

Peace, Joy, and Love,

Janet

Simon says, you can do this too. Pass it on. 

Pray for Families (Battling Confusion)

 Greetings Prayer Warriors,

These are confusing times. Families are facing challenges previously never even imagined. Lies are paraded around as truth. We have pronoun wars, gender wars, political wars, healthcare wars, religion wars, and border wars, just to name a few. All wars are meant to control someone or something. 

An acquaintance, whose daughter has cancer, is fighting with a healthcare system so that she can access her 13 year old’s medical chart. Mind you, the 13 year old doesn’t have email nor is internet savvy. Apparently, parent’s lose access to their child’s health records once they are 13 years old. Who is being protected?

Who is fighting for the children? The families? 

Some foster parents are struggling to keep a child from being sent back to a drug-addicted mother. Who is being protected?

Who is fighting for the children? The families? 

Vaccines with limited long term safety testing are often mandated for little children and babies. Parents are not being given full informed consent, nor can they sue a vaccine manufacturer if their child is harmed. Who is being protected?

Who is fighting for the children? The families? 

Draw your strength from the Lord and from his mighty power. Put on the armor of God so that you may be able to stand firm against the tactics of the devil. For our struggle is not with flesh and blood but with the principalities, with the powers, with the world rulers of this present darkness, with the evil spirits in the heavens. Ephesians 6:10-12

We are fighting for the children and the families. With prayer, fasting, and the rosary as our weapons, we are empowered to fight, to push back, and to hold our ground in defense and protection of the truth. By immersing ourselves in the Gospel of Truth, the Lord will give us the words and tools necessary for combat. Wield the power of prayer. Pray, pray, pray!

Therefore, put on the armor of God, that you may be able to resist on the evil day and, having done everything, to hold your ground. So stand fast with your loins girded in truth, clothed with righteousness as a breastplate, and your feet shod in readiness for the gospel of peace. In all circumstances, hold faith as a shield, to quench all [the] flaming arrows of the evil one. And take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. Ephesians 6:13-17

The list of concerns is endless, but do not dwell in worry, instead,

Trust in the LORD with all your heart, on your own intelligence do not rely; In all your ways be mindful of him, and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6

Peace, Joy, and Love,

Janet

Encourage one another in prayer. Pass it on!